It’s who you know and also what they know

Surrounding yourself with the right people makes you better. I’ve had a fair few positive role models since I left high school. And not just positive role models, but pretty inspirational people. My brother, people I met traveling, people I stayed with or lived with and a few randoms outside of …

Married

I’m a married man. And these were the vows I wrote and said to my new wife yesterday: People say Marriage is not about being RIGHT or WRONG…   BUT… we aren’t married YET.   Do you remember, 6 years ago, on the first day we met, when we were alone …

Not married

It was July 2010 and I had gone to Israel to volunteer at a wildlife reserve in the Southern Israeli dessert. On the 31st of July, I sat in an auditorium with about 25 other volunteers all in Israel to volunteer on different projects all around the country. Before the …

Compromise

I always thought that compromise in a relationship means both people not getting what they want. I’ve also heard people say they don’t think that’s right though – that it’s about both people getting what they want. But that doesn’t really ring true for me either. This does though. A friend of …

Something will definitely go wrong

I have been married exactly 0.0 times but from what I guess, and from what I gather from other people, the following is (unqualified) advice I’d give to someone just before their wedding day… (In 3 days, I will be able to say I have been married exactly 1.0 times) Something …

Use it or lose it

I spent the end of 2015 Helpxing on a couple farms in Ontario, Canada. Both places weren’t too far outside Ottawa, and the first was on a property owned by a guy called Damita. Damita had previously only worked in IT and had 0 experience in carpentry. But he read book …

I don’t feel good about this

Today I finished David Deutsch’s incredible book, The Beginning of Infinity, and went straight on to the next one I’ve got that I’ve been hanging to get stuck into, Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott. I’ve heard different people say it’s the book about how to be a good writer. The problem is I shouldn’t …

It’s just water

I live in a place where people are pretty active. Whenever the sun’s out, there’s people out running around, walking their dogs, talking and chatting, fishing, everything. But when it rains, everything’s different. On the streets and on the beach, it’s a ghost town. I can’t speak for everyone, but as …